Subculture Spotted: The Kink Community & My first play party

This last Saturday I went to my first ever BDSM party. I went there with some fear and anxiety. I was afraid of seeing some acts that would make me uncomfortable and just be generally hard to watch. I was worried I would see abuse. It felt dangerous. I felt nervous. I was very afraid… Read More

I dated a psychopath! – Recognizing unhealthy relationships & How to guard yourself

Learn how to recognize a psychopath, their characteristics and actions. See if you are at risk for being targeted and how to guard yourself against becoming a victim. Learn what happens when you are in a relationship with a psychopath, what it looks and feels like from the inside and outside. Notes from an interview with… Read More

Personal biases on submissiveness & Why you should complain more

Don’t oblige anyone. Out of respect or subservience.  Question everything. Why am I doing this? Is this good for me? I’d like to start by talking a little about myself, about my own biases, and how I view this topic. The importance of recognizing bias especially as an author, to me, is under considered. I… Read More

Why you should cuddle with strangers… For your health

I have been hosting Cuddle Up! events in Austin since February 2016. These events bring a group of people together for a consent, boundaries, and empowerment workshop followed by a guided, freestyle cuddling session. “I learned you can say ‘no’ to someone for no reason, you don’t owe anyone anything” – Sara Elizabeth Brown It’s… Read More

Triggers of submissiveness: people, places, and situations

Things that make you passive, submissive, overly accommodating, or quiet. Read through the list below, check mark anything you recognize in your own life. I don’t stand up for myself when… I am tired I have low self worth or value I have low self confidence I am embarrassed I feel uncomfortable It is a… Read More